Are You An Ostrich?
Hello and welcome, Tricia Murray here from The Birth and Baby Academy
Today we are talking about, “Are You an Ostrich”?
At the end of this I welcome you to download the Resources Bundle (which includes the Pregnancy Roadmap) which is a free step by step guide to help you at every stage along your pregnancy so that you can prepare for a positive birth.
Are You Burying Your Head In The Sand?
Let me ask you, are you burying your head in the sand? Maybe you don’t need to prepare for your birth. And maybe you just feel like it’s for all those earth mothers out there. That they’re the only people who would be interested in hypnobirthing and positive birth preparation. But the truth is that everybody needs to prepare for a positive birth experience.
Are You An Ostrich?
So, are you one of the ostriches? Are you burying your head in the sand? My belief is that everybody can have positive birth experiences when they’ve had the right birth preparation.
The majority of clients that I see in my birth trauma clinic post-birth or the clients that I work with on their second or subsequent pregnancies are those women who haven’t prepared properly for their birth experience.
They have probably gone to some antenatal classes and they have possibly done some hypnobirthing and they’ve tried little bits here or there to prepare. But they haven’t holistically prepared for everything.
How Can You Face Labour and Birth Head On?
To increase your chance of having a better birth experience, you need to educate yourself on a number of things. You need to be educated physically, mentally and emotionally as well as being educated on the maternity system and how to use the maternity system so that you can make the right choices and decisions for you and your family.
Prepare Like an Athlete
When we prepare, it’s a bit like we have to think about how marathon runners prepare for a big marathon. They prepare emotionally, mentally and physically.
They work to build up their stamina and their strength. They work on their positive mind-set, they eat well and they don’t drink because they know that that preparation is key. They look after themselves by going to see physiotherapists, going for regular massage, or anything else that they know will help them to keep in tip-top shape.
I know that family members of mine who do put themselves through these extreme sports of marathons or 10Ks, or 200 mile cycles. They work really hard to prepare for that and they know that if they don’t achieve what they’ve decided to do, it’s because they haven’t prepared properly. They invest their time and money wisely, so that they can end up with the experience that they want to have and they can later reflect positively on that experience.
What Do Ostriches Do?
Some of them can go to their local NHS or NCT classes and learn about the birth process and the mechanics of birth. Some might end up doing some hypnobirthing classes or reading various books or some blogs. Some might end up going to some positive birth movement groups. I think that you have to do all of that and so much more so that you can actually achieve the birth that you want. But the vast majority of women don’t bother preparing or don’t know that they can prepare and just hope that it’s all going to happen.
How Not to be An Ostrich
Some women might for example get a support team in place. They might have their Mum or sister or friend. Another woman, very rarely, will also choose a doula. A doula is a bit like having a personal trainer at your birth. Somebody that can really support you all of the way through and make sure that you are in tip-top shape. Not just physically, but emotionally and mentally too. So that you can really have that positive birth experience that you deserve.
What is Birth Trauma?
We live in a time when birth trauma rates are as high as 33 – 45%. That’s the number of women who report birth trauma. It could actually be higher.
Those women will experience a number of things such as flash backs and post-natal anxiety. They might feel disassociated from their body, disassociated or disconnected from their baby, a lot of the symptoms of PTSD will be there.
They may have a lot of anger, a lot of upset, a lot of shame, disgust, grief about the experience that they’ve had, being unable to stop crying and that is really highly associated with post-natal depression. Those two quite often come hand in hand. That can last with the woman throughout her whole lifetime.
Reducing the Likelihood of Birth Trauma
So it’s really important that we do work hard to reduce those rates of birth trauma. I believe that you can avoid that through preparing positively for your birth experience. That includes holistic birth preparation, how educated you are, knowing how to navigate the maternity system, and really focussing in on how to be prepared for your birth.
There’s nothing as certain as how uncertain birth can be. We know that. But we can plan for every eventuality and still experience that positive birth.
What are you going to commit to today?
How are you going to build confidence and get informed and allow yourself to relax so that you net a much better birth?
I welcome you to download the Resources Bundle (which includes the Pregnancy Roadmap). That’s a free tool for you to use with your partner so that you can plan positively for each stage of your pregnancy.
Having a positive birth experience doesn’t come from an action. It comes from everyday commitment. So what are you going to commit to today? It’s time for you to relax deeply, learn wisely and experience a much better birth.
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